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adam2kgt
08-31-2009, 11:33 PM
A true friend has crossed the finish line for the last time. I am typing this as I drive back to Conway from KY after seeing a long time friend, confidant, and second father being laid to rest. A little background is in order. In 1992 my father was in serious financial trouble due to his employer cheating on taxes. A high school friend of his heard of this, and approached my father to come work for him. After 2 years of my dad working for him, he offered my mother a job at a motel he had purchased. He oput a roof over our heads, food in our bellies, and money in our pockets. His son, being the same age as I, became a friend. We grew up together, though not as close as I would have liked. Harold, the father and boss, took me a few times to the local dirt oval track that he raced at. This is what introduced me to motorsports. After 2 years there, a highway expansion forced the motel to close, so he helped us find another home. We moved several times, which caused me to lose touch with Brandon, the son. My dad continued to work for Harold. Then, in 1996, Harold got black flagged for something, so he, being the hot head he was, climbed the fence under the flag stand, grabbed the owner by his shirt collar, shook him violently, and yelled "I'll own this place one day!" So by the next summer, he did! He opened it back up in 98. The next year, I started high school and moved back closer to that end of the county. Guess who was in my class? Brandon! He told me about the track, and asked if I would want to help out. So, that summer, I worked for Harold. After that first year, Brandon talked his dad into letting him race. He started out in an open wheel modified, the 2nd highest class there. Brandon didn't have many friends who were mechanically inclined, so he asked me to help him out with the car. We sucked that year! But, even with old worn out equipment, we did WAY better than 15 year olds should. The next year, Brandon saved some money, and his dad helped him get a 2 year old Rayburn late model chassis. That same year, Harold offered me a deal. Work for him, making 50 bucks a week, and help Brandon with the car, and he would give me my first car! That year, 2 16 year old kids won 2 heat races, and finished 2nd in overall points! And one of them became the proud owner of a partially restored 86 Ford Ranger. The next year, Brandon and I kicked butt and won our first feature! Course, we blew the engine hot lapping, then changed out the long block for a spare in 45 minutes before he started that race! One of my best memories ever! Anyway, after another season, we kinda lost touch because Brandon got to running with a bad crowd. I quit going to the track, but Harold would always make sure I was okay. Dad quit working for him in 03, but even up until he died, he would call dad once or twice a month to check on everybody. My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer in 06, and Harold made sure to check on her every chance he got, even after she recovered.

This gives you an idea of the relationship Harold and I had. I found out yesterday at noon that he had passed. So, I left work and hauled butt to KY. At the funeral today, there were over 200 people who all cared for this man, whose lives he had touched. After the funeral, the procession made its way 10 miles to the track that Harold still owned and operated. As we pulled into the track parking lot, I heard the distinct sound of several high compression circle track engines reviving up. The hearse pulled onto the track, and led a group of Harolds friends in 3 laps, a green flag, the checkered flag, and a victory lap. After the final lap, the lead race car broke away and made a few hot laps, finishing with spinning out and doing a couple donuts in turn 4. When the car pulled into the pit and stopped, Brandon hopped out. I am as strong and tough as any man out there, but when that car came around that track wide open, and then his son climbed out, I feel no shame in admitting to crying. It broke my heart. But, as anybody who knew Harold would tell you, I will not shed another year for his passing, as he would want us all to remember him, miss him, but not cry over him. God bless you, Harold. You took that final checkered flag. You won this race. You have left behind many friends, who will forever remember you.

Sorry so long. I just needed to share this. Thank you to everybody in advance. I will post the video of Harolds final checkered flag if its okay with everybody.

ArkansasMystic
08-31-2009, 11:50 PM
Wow, I really hate to hear that man. I don't know you, we've never met, but I've suffered several losses of family and close friends and it's tough. I feel for you, and just remember we're here. I'm up in Russellville, if you need anything, seriously anything, I'll do what I can to help you out. My thoughts and prayers will be with his family and friends. It may be buried in there somewhere and I overlooked it, but what was the cause of death? It sounds like he was a truly a great man. I am reminded of an old song by Randy Travis, 3 wooden crosses. It's not about what you take with you, it's what you leave behind when you go. It sounds like he fulfilled every thing he could and left behind a ton of knowledge and impacts on your life, so what he left behind was great.

adam2kgt
09-01-2009, 01:05 AM
Thank you. The reports were that he died from a massive heart attack. Given his prior lifestyle, his chain smoking, and his high stress level, its no surprise. But, one guy who always talked bad about him tried to start a rumor that he committed suicide, and that was the reason the viewing was closed casket. My dad went to the viewing the night before I got there. Afterwards everybody met at Harolds house. That guy showed up, and started running his mouth. Dad sent him home with a little less blood, a black eye, and broken nose. Gotta love my pops!
He left behind a son and daughter, an ex wife, 2 sisters, and his father. He was the kind of man you couldn't judge from his cover. Heart of gold for those he liked, but a total nightmare if you crossed him. Which makes what my father did perfect. Harold would have done exactly the same for him. I am a better man by having grown up around men like both of them.

oxman
09-01-2009, 10:25 AM
my thoughts exactly sir! So sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing this with us.Wow, I really hate to hear that man. I don't know you, we've never met, but I've suffered several losses of family and close friends and it's tough. I feel for you, and just remember we're here. I'm up in Russellville, if you need anything, seriously anything, I'll do what I can to help you out. My thoughts and prayers will be with his family and friends. It may be buried in there somewhere and I overlooked it, but what was the cause of death? It sounds like he was a truly a great man. I am reminded of an old song by Randy Travis, 3 wooden crosses. It's not about what you take with you, it's what you leave behind when you go. It sounds like he fulfilled every thing he could and left behind a ton of knowledge and impacts on your life, so what he left behind was great.

Blackjack
09-01-2009, 10:53 AM
my thoughts exactly sir! So sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing this with us.Wow, I really hate to hear that man. I don't know you, we've never met, but I've suffered several losses of family and close friends and it's tough. I feel for you, and just remember we're here. I'm up in Russellville, if you need anything, seriously anything, I'll do what I can to help you out. My thoughts and prayers will be with his family and friends. It may be buried in there somewhere and I overlooked it, but what was the cause of death? It sounds like he was a truly a great man. I am reminded of an old song by Randy Travis, 3 wooden crosses. It's not about what you take with you, it's what you leave behind when you go. It sounds like he fulfilled every thing he could and left behind a ton of knowledge and impacts on your life, so what he left behind was great.

John said it! Sorry for the loss.

adam2kgt
09-01-2009, 10:57 AM
Thank you guys. I appreciate it. We made it back to AR at 330 this morning. Just glad to be back home safe.

horspwr
09-01-2009, 12:41 PM
So sorry about the loss....It's never easy.

stumbaugh
09-01-2009, 04:21 PM
I hate to hear that Adam. If u need anything just let me know. I will do all I can to help.

1low03gt
09-01-2009, 09:33 PM
Nice little story,and sorry for the loss. :(

hammerhead2
09-03-2009, 09:26 PM
Very sorry for your loss bud.

fordshotime
10-05-2009, 04:59 PM
sorry to hear about your loss.
sounds like the funeral was the kind of thing he would have approved of and a fitting way for the friends and family to pay their final respects.

My wife just recently lost a cousin to cancer. he was big in the local car club. on the day of his funeral we were shocked as we pulled into the church. there before our eyes were 50 plus antique cars, street rods, and muscle cars setting in the rain waiting to take their friend on the last cruise. The Hurst was escorted by their restored T-bird. It was enough to bring a tear to your eye when those cars fired up to take their friend on his final cruise. that is exactly what he would have wanted.

hang in there
BT